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DOC TEACHES IN THE SYSTEM THAT THERE ARE "PROFESSIONAL DATERS" THAT ARE ONLY THERE TO BURN UP YOUR VISA CARD - THIS GUY HAS RUN INTO A LOT OF "PROFESSIONAL DATERS" AND IS VENTING TO DOC. READ ON...
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Hi Doc,
My name is Jack. I'm 42 years young and I own a large luxury car dealership. Even though I’ve been quite successful in my career, I’ve experienced a lot of confusion with women for many years.
But since I started using your “System” in January, I’ve had three times as many dates so far this year than I had for the entire year before. I’ve learned how and when to ask a woman for her phone number and I know how to weed out the ones who give out their number but have no intention of going out with me.
The problem I’m encountering now is that a lot of these women who do go out with me, but ultimately won’t even kiss me, even though they keep accepting dates with me. I’ve been following your rules about keeping things light and keeping them laughing. I let the woman do all the touching. I don’t tell her how much I like her and all that. I’m a total gentleman and I also maintain a sense of mystery and Challenge just as you say to do. I’ve come a long way.
But I am completely baffled by these girls. They touch me, they compliment me, they tell me outright what a great time they have with me and they talk about doing things together on more dates in the future. But when I make my move for a nice simple kiss, and I usually wait until the third or fourth date to go for it, they turn their head away, or they give me a quick peck and then start talking or they just give me a hug instead. Even after they refuse to kiss me, they still accept more dates with me. But they never let me kiss them, even when we spend more time together. (I’ve been laboring under the assumption that a lot of them are probably shy and just need more time, but now I’m starting to believe that that’s not accurate at all.)
I will tell you that there is one new woman whom I’ve just started dating who gave me a long, deep, wet kiss right off the bat on our first date. Boy was that delightful and refreshing!
So, what’s with all these other girls? Why are they spending so much time with me if they don’t even want to kiss me? They know that I’m romantically interested in them, or I wouldn’t be asking them out. So then why do they keep accepting dates with me? Why do they let me pay for everything and do all the planning and all the driving and everything when they obviously have no interest in me? Is that right? Is that fair? Do other guys go through this too? And how can I screen out these phonies and strokers before I spend all this time and money on them?
Jack - who is ticked off
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Hi Jack,
You are not alone. Every day I receive a lot of e-mails complaining of the exact same thing that you’ve been experiencing. In fact, I’d have to say that what we have in the current dating world is an epidemic of phony female flirt-itis.
Every night, across America, tens of thousands of women are out on dates with men whom they have no romantic interest in or physical attraction to. These women are already 100% clear that they have no intention of ever even exploring the possibility of a relationship with the poor sap they’ve chosen as their target. Each one, all consumed with her own narcissistic agenda, has no concern whatsoever that she is misleading her victim, let alone possibly hurting his feelings. Toying with a man’s emotions is a form of recreation for her.
If you’re a long-time reader, you know that I call this type of woman: The Professional Dater. And, yes Jack, the way she behaves isn’t right. And it isn’t fair either, but it is a reality that all single guys must learn to deal with, unless you are in a band.
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So just what is The Professional Dater’s secret agenda? Let me clarify this for everyone. Her agenda is: To enjoy as many social, recreational and culinary opportunities as she can, with no strings attached, while she bides her time, looking for the ‘real’ Mr. Right. In her self-centered universe, her inner dialogue goes something like this: “While I’m attending that exclusive Grammy party with Mr. Chump, I just might meet a celebrity.” Or “while I’m dining at the nicest restaurant in town with Mr. Loser, at least I’ll be able to enjoy another Lobster dinner this week instead of having to stay home and watch re-runs of Sex in the City while I eat reheated pasta with my cat. And besides, attention from an undesirable male is better than no male attention at all.”
The more beautiful the Professional Dater is, the higher her standards will be. They enjoy getting free dinners at the steakhouse and a complimentary movie ticket, courtesy of Mr. Clueless.
Well versed in the subtleties of manipulation, the Professional Dater knows that her victim will not continue to lavish his attention and generosity upon her if she doesn’t give him a sense of hope and possibility. So, she’s a master at leading him on, without having to even approach the first stages of intimacy. (For her, the idea of even kissing her mark, ranges somewhere from between mildly distasteful to outright repulsive.)
The Professional Dater has trained herself to exhibit all the buying signals of the woman with authentic high Interest level. She touches the guy a lot. She tells him how special he is. She thanks him profusely for the lovely evening she had. She even makes very subtle, ambiguous hints about the possibility of furthering the relationship in the future.
So how do you screen out this viscous siren? How do you avoid being played like a Stradivarius? How do you call her bluff and flush out this emotional vampire? Are you ready guys? Listen up! Here it is. The antidote to this stroker’s spell:
To determine whether or not your potential relationship partner is a Professional Dater, you must make sure that you do not end your first date with her without going for a nice, sweet, long lingering kiss. And if you get anything less from her, go home and delete her number.
To some, this suggestion may sound too harsh, too inflexible. Let me tell you guys: Any girl who really likes you, who is romantically interested in you, will be more than pleased to lay a big wet one on you by the end of the first date. Why wouldn’t she if she likes you? Even a very shy girl who has high Interest Level will respond enthusiastically. Only a woman with low Interest Level wouldn’t lip lock with you after a three and a half-hour long first date. (And who would want to be with her?)
To others, this suggestion may sound simplistic. Like basic common sense. Well, that’s what it is. It’s a simple but profound way to quickly determine where you stand and avoid more dates with the same woman that will wind up going nowhere. Let’s say it another way. There’s no such thing as a woman with high Interest Level who would penalize you for going for a nice kiss at the end of the first date.
Jack, the bad news is that the reason that these women aren’t responding, even though you’re doing everything right, is that they never really liked you to begin with. But the good news is that you can stop them in their tracks if you don’t wait until the third or fourth date to make your move. Go for that kiss and bottom-line the woman’s Interest Level by the end of the first date. And simply do not go out again with any woman who fails to respond enthusiastically to your overtures. Stick with the girl who gave you a great kiss on the first date and look for more like her if you need to.
Remember guys, you never know if a girl might be a Professional Dater or not, until you go for that Big Smooch!
